How do I come to terms with loss and grief during my aging years?

Rumi knew grief intimately. He wrote that 'the wound is the place where the Light enters you.' Not as inspiration, but as lived truth. Aging means accumulating losses—friends, roles, the body you knew, time itself. There's no way around this; the only way is through, and through means *feeling*. Here's what helps: Stop trying to 'get over' grief. Instead, let it teach you. Each loss reveals what mattered. Each person who dies takes a version of you with them—and that's not something to rush past. It's something to honor slowly. Practically: Create small rituals. Write letters you don't send. Speak their names aloud. Look at photographs without turning away. Talk to someone who won't try to fix your sadness. And notice this: grief and love are the same energy, moving in different directions. When you grieve deeply, you're still loving. The deepening of faith that aging allows isn't about answers to why we lose people. It's about becoming large enough to hold both the joy they brought and the ache of their absence, at the same time. That capacity—that is wisdom.