Loving someone with pronounced narcissistic traits is disorienting because the person you fell for — charming, intense, uniquely attuned to you — and the person who gradually erodes your sense of reality can seem irreconcilable with each other. The structure of narcissistic relationships is now well documented, but understanding it intellectually is not the same as being able to feel your way out. This domain examines the pattern with clarity and without cruelty toward either person in it.
Each step builds on the last.