Gottman research calls these conversational bids—moments when someone invites connection through a question, shared observation, or small gesture—and whether you turn toward them or dismiss them measurably predicts relationship health. Noticing these bids and responding to them rather than letting them die is simple but profound work.
A conversational bid is a small, often overlooked attempt by one person to make an emotional or social connection with another, such as sharing a joke, a complaint, or a piece of news. Psychologist John Gottman identified these bids as critical to relationship health because how partners respond to them predicts long-term satisfaction.
AI can help users review conversation logs or draft messages to identify whether bids are being made, ignored, or rejected, giving people concrete data on connection patterns they can then intentionally improve.
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