A practice of ruthless self-honesty about motivations, fears, and patterns in how we choose romantic partners, grounded in Mirabai's uncompromising spiritual courage.
Mirabai rejected social convention and family pressure to pursue authentic devotion, modeling radical honesty about one's true desires. In attachment patterns, the examined heart practice involves rigorous inquiry into why we choose particular partners: Are we drawn to their qualities or their ability to soothe our wounds? Do we pursue them or flee from abandonment? Mirabai's example teaches that spiritual growth requires facing uncomfortable truths about ourselves. Applied to partner selection, this means examining our family patterns, childhood wounds, and unconscious contracts we bring to relationships. Rather than rushing into connection, we pause and ask: What am I really seeking? What am I avoiding? This Sophos tradition honors grief and loss as teachers, suggesting that examining our heartbreak reveals what we truly value versus what we thought we should want.
Peri can explain this concept, give practical examples, help you decide whether it applies to your situation, or recommend a journey if appropriate.
Explore related journeys or tell Peri what you're working through.