A coworker gets under your skin
There's someone at work who just gets to you — the interrupting, the taking credit, the tone, the way they do the thing they always do. You replay their comments on the drive home, vent about them to your partner, feel your jaw tighten when their name pops up. You can't quit over it and you can't change them, so it just sits there, quietly costing you.
A coworker who gets under your skin is costing you twice: once in the moment, and again in all the hours you spend replaying it afterward. You usually can't change them — that's the trap — but you have more control than it feels over the second cost, the rent they collect in your head. Some of this is practical: how to handle the specific behavior. And some is inner: why this particular person lands so hard, because the ones who really get to us often poke something that's ours. Let's work both.
What changes unlock by starting
- You stop paying them after-hours rent in your head
- You address the behavior calmly, not the person
- You know what nerve of yours they hit
- You've right-sized their place in your life