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My top performer hurts the team. Do I protect them or ignore it?

You say you are tolerating the behavior. Be honest: you are paying for it, and the team is paying with you. Every week you say nothing, you teach the rest of them what actually gets rewarded here. It is not the stated standard. It is the exception you made. This is not a performer problem. It is a choice you keep making, quietly, in your own favor — the easier result now, the harder cost later. The team already did the math. That is why morale is where it is. You cannot control whether this person changes. You can control whether you keep protecting them without naming what you're protecting them from. Start there.

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What’s really going on

You already know the answer. You are trading your team's trust for one person's output, and you call it management. Stop calling it that. Name the behavior to the performer directly, attach one real consequence, and tell your team you did it. The team is not watching the performer — it is watching you.

🔒 What you’ll build togetherUnlock by starting
A moveWrite down, in one plain sentence, the exact behavior you have been excusing. No euphemisms.
A moveMeet the performer this week. Name the behavior, not the output. Say what you will do if it continues.
A moveSet one consequence tied strictly to behavior, separate from results, and write it down before the meeting.
A moveTell your team, directly, that you have addressed it — before they ask you why you haven't.
A moveSet a date, 30 days out, to judge whether the behavior changed. Decide now what you'll do if it hasn't.
PractiseThe Protected Behavior · a Pod of 4 · 30 min

What changes unlock by starting

  • You stop managing this alone in silence; the team sees you act, not just hear you explain.
  • The performer either changes the behavior or makes their refusal impossible to ignore.
  • Your team's trust in you stops eroding, because the exception is now named and bounded.
  • You have a written standard for what you will and won't trade for results, going forward.

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