Why do angry meetings still get under my skin?

You can walk into the room now. You can speak. You can sit through the shouting without leaving. That part is done — you built it. But something still happens. The anger gets inside you. You carry it home. You replay it at night, wondering if a calmer person would have kept the room from boiling over. That is the mistake. The anger in that room is not yours. It belongs to the people who brought it in. Your job was never to make it vanish. Your job is to say what is true, do your part, and leave the rest where you found it. Carrying it home is a choice you keep making, even when you don't notice you're making it.