The Pattern
Busyness is a choice. It's also often a form of avoidance — of stillness, of difficult questions, of the self that would be present if there were space. What are you not having to confront while you're busy?
What Mastery Looks Like
A deliberate, protected relationship with attention
The Path Forward
Work through it with Laozi
Guides on this pattern, each one a conversation you can start rather than an article you read.
Why do I fill every commute with noise instead of silence?Why do I fill every commute with noise?Why do I keep announcing how tired I am at work?Why do I keep telling people how tired I am?Why do I say 'I'm busy' before I even check my calendar?Why do I say I'm busy before I even check?You always feel you should be doing something elseYou complain about being busy, but you're secretly proud of it
Related patterns
Patterns that often live alongside this one.
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Working through “Stop Being Busy All the Time”?
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