The Pattern
The care you give is real. But somewhere it crossed into needing to be needed — and that's a different thing. The pattern is that your emotional state is regulated by theirs, and that's not love, it's fusion.
What Mastery Looks Like
The capacity to love and be loved with clarity and openness
The Path Forward
Related patterns
Patterns that often live alongside this one.
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