The Pattern
The avoidance of intimacy is not coldness — it's protection. At some point, being close felt dangerous. That protection made sense then. Now it's preventing the connection you actually want.
What Mastery Looks Like
The capacity to love and be loved with clarity and openness
The Path Forward
Work through it with Mira
Guides on this pattern, each one a conversation you can start rather than an article you read.
Related patterns
Patterns that often live alongside this one.
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Working through “Let People Get Close to You”?
Talk it through with Mira, and start where it actually helps.