The Pattern
Seriousness has become a prison. At some point being serious became how you signalled that you were worth taking seriously — and now you can't find the door out. But the fool sees what the serious miss.
What Mastery Looks Like
The capacity to experience genuine delight and play
The Path Forward
Work through it with Nas
Guides on this pattern, each one a conversation you can start rather than an article you read.
Playful people exhaust you instead of delighting youWhy can I take a compliment on my work but not on my fun?Why can I take praise for hard work but not for being funny?Why can't I just play anymore without keeping score?Why can't our group just play without keeping score?Why can't we ever just enjoy finishing something together?Why do I feel embarrassed enjoying something silly?Why do I feel embarrassed for enjoying something silly?Why do I never feel done before I'm on to the next thing?Why do I research new things until the fun is gone?Why do I treat a neighbor's visit like an event to prepare for?Why does a simple invitation feel like an event to survive?
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Patterns that often live alongside this one.
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Working through “Lighten Up”?
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