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Problem
Toward Leadership

Avoiding necessary difficult conversations at work, allowing problems to compound

Part of the pattern: Getting Promoted
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The path forward
  1. 1Name the conversation you're avoiding
  2. 2Prepare what needs to be said
  3. 3Have it
One thing to try this week
Identify the conversation you have been putting off longest
Related problems
A large part of how I see myself comes from the name of where I work — its prestige is borrowed into my own identity. It means I cling to a job partly for the badge, and the thought of leaving the name frightens me more than leaving the work.After being inside, I don't know who I am on the outside or whether I get a real second chance.After time away from work, I feel like I've lost my edge and everyone's passed me by.After time out — for children, illness, or a pause — I have come back to work without the identity I left with. The world moved on, my old confidence is gone, and I am not sure who I am professionally anymore now that I am returning.Anxiety about work performance leading to avoidance or paralysisAs I have become more successful, the people around me treat me differently — more deference, more distance, more assumptions about who I now am. I have what I worked for, and I feel oddly more alone inside it than I expected.

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