LibraryPatternsStop Overthinking DecisionsI frame choices so that others end up making them — y…
Problem
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I frame choices so that others end up making them — you pick, whatever you think, it does not matter to me. The decisions get made and I avoid the responsibility of having chosen.

Part of the pattern: Stop Overthinking Decisions
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The path forward
  1. 1Notice the pattern of deferring
  2. 2Make one choice yourself
  3. 3Own the responsibility of choosing
One thing to try this week
Make one decision this week that you would normally frame so someone else decides. Say: I would like X. Own the choice.
Related problems
I ask for too many opinions before making decisions and end up more confused than when I started.I consult trusted people about decisions and keep going until I find someone who disagrees. When opinions diverge I am more paralysed than when I started. The consultation is generating noise, not signal.I have received so much conflicting advice from so many people that I am more confused than when I started.I make pros and cons lists for decisions. They rarely produce clarity. The lists have equal weight, or the decisive factor is not on the list, or completing the list simply moves the paralysis to the next stage.I need to know how it will end before I can choose. Since outcomes are never certain, the decision process spirals indefinitely. I am waiting for a guarantee that cannot exist.I start things but never commit fully. I always keep one foot out in case something better comes along.

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