My co-founder is brilliant but he handles stress by disappearing for days without communication and then coming back with solutions nobody asked for. I handle stress by over-communicating and trying to control everything, and we're both making each other worse but we've never actually talked about how our coping mechanisms are incompatible.
More people experience this than they realize.
You and your partner cope with stress in opposite ways that make each other worse, and you've never talked about it.
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