My co-founder is former military and I'm a civilian and we're building software for veteran transition services but we keep having these unspoken tensions about who understands the user base better and it's affecting our product decisions because we're not actually debating the merits anymore, we're just deferring to whoever feels more authentic.
More people experience this than they realize.
You've stopped debating ideas and started just deferring to whoever seems more credible.
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