My engineering partner and I have been working on this product for eighteen months and we fundamentally disagree about technical architecture decisions but we've stopped having the actual argument and instead we just passive-aggressively implement our preferred approaches in different parts of the codebase. I can see us building something incoherent and I don't know how to get back to honest technical disagreement without it feeling like a personal attack on work we've already done.
More people experience this than they realize.
You and your partner stopped arguing and now just build in opposite directions, wrecking the product.
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