My executive officer and I have completely different leadership styles and our unit feels it - I see the NCOs starting to play us against each other and we've never actually talked about how to lead together as a command team. We both care about the mission but we're sending mixed signals and I don't know how to fix this without undermining either of us.
More people experience this than they realize.
You and your second-in-command lead differently and never aligned, so your unit is splitting.
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