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When peer support groups become performance spaces

Our leadership cohort went through an executive program together and we meet monthly to support each other, but it's become a performance where everyone shares carefully curated challenges that make them look thoughtful and vulnerable without actually being vulnerable. I'm dealing with some real shit that I could use help with, but the dynamic we've created makes it feel impossible to break character and be genuinely honest.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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Your support group has become a show of fake vulnerability just when you actually need real help.

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