Someone in the meeting solved the thing before I did, and instead of being glad, I felt something cold drop in my stomach. My whole life I've been "the smart one," the person who figures it out, so the moment I struggle or someone outshines me, it doesn't feel like a normal gap in skill. It feels like a crack in who I am.
More people experience this than they realize.
Your identity rests on being the smart one, so any struggle feels like a threat to who you are.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.