The second someone starts picking apart my design, my face gets hot and I'm already building my defense. I know they're talking about the work, not me, but it doesn't feel that way. I leave critiques bruised and I can't hear a word of what might actually help.
More people experience this than they realize.
You take design feedback as an attack on you, so you can't actually hear it.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.