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When fair criticism makes you shut down or defend

Someone pointed out a real flaw in my work and I felt the shutters come down. I went quiet, then I found a reason it wasn't really my fault. Later, alone, I knew they'd been right. In the moment I just couldn't let the criticism in without defending against it.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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When your work is criticized you go quiet or defensive, even when the feedback is fair.

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