The real conversations on my team never happen out loud. Someone's frustrated with a colleague, and instead of telling them, it goes into a private message to me, or a quiet vent by the coffee machine. Almost nothing gets said to the person it's actually about, and all this whispering has quietly become how the whole team really runs.
More people experience this than they realize.
On your team the real talk happens in side channels, never to the person's face.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.