My colleague pointed out a flaw in my approach and I felt myself snap into defense mode, cutting in, explaining, brushing it off. Three hours later, walking to my car, I realized he was completely right. By then I had already made him feel like an idiot for saying it.
More people experience this than they realize.
You get defensive in the moment and only see they were right once the damage is done.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.