When my boss said something that matched how I see myself, I nodded and took it right in. When a coworker said something that did not fit my picture of me, I immediately started poking holes, questioning her motive, her read, her facts. I have quietly built a system where only the flattering stuff counts.
More people experience this than they realize.
You accept feedback that fits your self-image and pick apart anything that doesn't.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.