I worked my whole career to make captain, and now the job is deciding who goes in. These are people I've eaten dinner with, whose kids I know, and I'm the one sending them toward the danger. When a call goes bad, I'm the one who has to live with the order I gave.
More people experience this than they realize.
Leading means sending people you love into danger and living with how it ends.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.