My mentee is good, maybe good enough to outgrow me, and I caught myself holding back the one connection that would launch her past me. I tell myself I'm mentoring for her sake, but sitting with it I'm honestly not sure where her good ends and my own comfort begins. I want to guide her well, and I don't fully know what I actually owe her versus what just serves me.
More people experience this than they realize.
You want to mentor for their sake, but you can't tell where their good ends and your self-interest begins.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.