My team knows I'm gay and it's fine. But the second a client walks in, or I'm in a room with the leadership from the other office, I catch myself editing my words and swapping 'partner' for nothing. It never fully stops, this quiet math of who's safe and who isn't.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're out with some people at work but not others, and the constant calculating never lets up.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.