I finally worked up the nerve to ask for a raise, and I got the words out without my voice shaking too much. But when my boss started pushing back, asking me to justify it, I felt my whole case crumble in my hands. And when the answer is no, I go home and replay it for days.
More people experience this than they realize.
You can ask for more, but building the case and hearing no still shakes you.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.