Some nights I lie awake sorting the losses into two piles: the ones nothing could have saved, and the ones where I'll never quite know if I could have done more. The second pile is the one that haunts me. I carry both, and I can't always tell them apart.
More people experience this than they realize.
You carry both the outcomes you couldn't change and the ones you might have.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.