I came back from leave clear about what I would and wouldn't do. I sat down with my boss and asked to reshape the job around the parent I am now, instead of squeezing myself back into the old shape. It felt strange to ask so plainly, and also like the most honest thing I'd done at work in years.
More people experience this than they realize.
You return from leave and reshape the job to fit the parent you've become.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.