I decided on the plan before I asked anyone, because asking first would have shown I wasn't sure, and looking unsure feels like it chips away at my authority. So I locked it in early and wore the confident face. The call was probably premature, but at least nobody saw me hesitate.
More people experience this than they realize.
You decide before consulting so no one sees your uncertainty.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.