I've made my peace with letting the evidence win, even when it overturns something I badly wanted to be true. Chasing what's real instead of what's flattering to me is the whole reason I do this. Being honest with myself first has become the ground I stand on.
More people experience this than they realize.
You follow the evidence past your own hopes because honesty is the point.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.