I have a picture in my head of how the work should be done, and I never actually say it out loud. Then the work comes in and I'm quietly let down that it missed a bar nobody knew existed. The distance between what I expect inside and what I ever say is where all the friction lives.
More people experience this than they realize.
You hold your team to unspoken standards and feel let down when they can't read your mind.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.