When I say a thing cannot go forward, I say it plainly now and do not soften it into mush. I used to dread being the wall, but I have come to see the wall keeps people safe. My clear no is not me against them; it is me looking out for all of us.
More people experience this than they realize.
You hold the line without apology, seeing your no as protection, not opposition.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.