I answer work messages during bath time, at dinner, in the middle of the bedtime story. My kids have grown up watching me glance down at the phone instead of at them. Lately they don't even fight for my attention anymore, and that's the part that stops me cold.
More people experience this than they realize.
You keep choosing the phone over your kids, and they've stopped trying to compete.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.