My partner and I are both in trauma therapy working on body-based healing but our nervous systems are completely out of sync — when they need grounding touch I'm hypervigilant and when I need to move or shake they freeze up and we end up triggering each other instead of supporting each other.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people trying to heal together are caught in a cycle where their different nervous system responses create more activation rather than safety.
“Where Are You with Trauma in the body — somatic approaches?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.