My partner has started doing this intense sleep optimization routine — tracking everything, special mattress, supplements, blackout curtains — and it's helping them but making me feel like I'm failing at sleep and like our bedroom has become a laboratory. I want them to sleep well but I feel like I can't just naturally go to bed anymore without feeling inadequate.
More people experience this than they realize.
One person's systematic approach to improvement is creating shame and pressure for their partner.
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