My wife's fibromyalgia means we have to cancel plans constantly and I'm starting to resent the unpredictability even though I know it's not her fault, and I feel guilty about my resentment which makes me even more frustrated.
More people experience this than they realize.
The legitimate grief of lost spontaneity can become toxic when shame prevents honest acknowledgment of what's been sacrificed.
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