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How to find motivation beyond proving others wrong

I can only motivate myself to exercise by imagining people who hurt me watching me succeed but this feels toxic and I don't know another way.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The reliance on external validation, even negative validation, has become the primary source of motivation, preventing authentic self-direction.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Movement and exercise — principles?”

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