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When your birth doesn't go as planned and everyone dismisses your grief

My birth plan went completely out the window and I ended up with an emergency C-section after 20 hours of labor, but everyone keeps telling me I should just be grateful we're both healthy and I feel like I'm not allowed to grieve what I lost.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The gap between expectation and reality in profound life experiences can create a loss that others don't recognize as legitimate.

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