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When people minimize your loss by suggesting replacement

My daughter was stillborn last month and people keep asking when we're going to 'try again' as if she was just practice for the real baby.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The suggestion that love can be transferred to substitutes denies the irreplaceable particularity of each lost relationship.

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