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When chronic illness creates unspoken grief in relationships

My spouse tries to be supportive but I can see the grief in their eyes when they look at me. We both mourn the person I used to be but we can't talk about it without it feeling like a betrayal.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Mutual mourning for a lost version of the self remains unexpressed to protect the relationship.

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