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How to address unspoken racial dynamics in long-term friendships

My oldest friend and I have been through everything together but we've never talked about the fact that I'm white and they're Black and how that shapes things between us, and I don't know if bringing it up now would help or hurt.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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The complexity of introducing conversations about identity and power into relationships that have operated without explicit acknowledgment of these forces, risking both connection and avoidance.

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