My partner and I are both ADHD but we mask differently and it's creating this weird dynamic where we're performing neurotypicality for each other even at home and I think we're both exhausted by it but neither of us knows how to stop. We've never actually talked about what support looks like when we're both the ones who need it.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are recreating the very performance they sought refuge from, afraid that authentic need might overwhelm their shared capacity.
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