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When passing as straight becomes a trap

Everyone at work assumes I'm straight because I don't 'look gay' and now I'm so deep in this assumption that coming out feels like admitting I've been lying this whole time.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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The safety of invisibility becomes its own prison when authentic connection requires revelation.

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