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When others idealize your caregiving sacrifice

Everyone says I am a saint for taking care of my disabled husband but I feel like a fraud because some days I wish he would just die.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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Being praised for caregiving can feel like judgment when your internal experience includes thoughts and feelings that contradict the saintly narrative.

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“Where Are You with Caregiving?”

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