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Why some people sabotage relationships when they get close

I am thirty-five and have never been in a relationship longer than eight months because I always find something wrong with them right when it starts getting serious.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The fear of intimacy often disguises itself as high standards, protecting us from vulnerability by ensuring we never have to fully open ourselves to another person.

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