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Why we repeat relationship patterns we consciously hate

I keep dating people who need to be rescued and then I resent them for being helpless even though I chose them specifically because they were helpless.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Sometimes we unconsciously seek out familiar dynamics even when they harm us because the known pain feels safer than unknown possibility.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Romantic Relationships & Dating?”

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