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Why cooking for others brings out hidden expectations

I love cooking elaborate meals for friends but lately I notice I'm getting resentful when they don't appreciate the effort enough, and I don't like this calculating person I'm becoming.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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Your generous acts are revealing unacknowledged needs for recognition and reciprocity that disturb your self-image.

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