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When You Realize You Wanted to Be Needed, Not a Parent

I married someone with kids thinking I wanted to be a mom but now I realize I just wanted to be needed and these kids need their actual parents, not me.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

You're confronting the difference between genuine care and the ego satisfaction of being essential to someone else.

Ideas that help explain it
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